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Why it's hard for men to understand women



Women are complicated beings. Not every man can fully grasp the vast complexity of emotional, psychological, and physiological differences that separate them from men. Men acquire an early knowledge of interacting with women through early relationships with their mothers. So, when it comes to understanding the basics, men are not as clueless as women believe.
There will always more to a woman than what meets a man's eye, and it is moving beyond the basics that men begin to have problems. Identifying which personality will emerge during the monthly changes that women must constantly adjust to, is like looking into space and picking out which celestial object will best sustain life. You might get lucky and get it right, but there is a far greater chance that you won't.
But, men will never fully understand women because they can never fully understand the entire female experience. Men will never know the discomfort of going through monthly changes. And they will never endure the contrasting joys and pains of childbirth. Few men experience the challenges of having to raise their children alone. And men don't go through the hormonal upheaval associated with that period fondly called the "change of life".
Actually, men could really care less about what women have to endure. Only when they find their lives altered or in any way inconvenienced do they show any concern at all. It isn't their problem that women go through what they go through, but most of them believe that they must still be a woman's first priority. But, men can be surprisingly different at the beginning of a relationship.
Men are chameleons. They understand that they must do the things and say the things that will attract a woman's attention. They adapt to environmental changes to avoid having their intentions detected, but always reverse to their true colors when safe in their comfort zones. In the beginning, men become whatever a woman wants them to be, when they feel that there is a potential payoff in the end. However, they have little desire to maintain such appearances beyond the point of absolute necessity.
Men and women operate in different emotional planes. Men are fueled by testosterone. They get excited about football, basketball, a good fight, and sex. Women, on the other hand, have more estrogen. They enjoy a good love story, cry at weddings, and believe in fairy tale endings. Biological building blocks make it difficult for men to ever understand why women shed tears over the "Cinderella" story, and few women see the excitement of getting beat up for money.
And though some men watch "Lifetime" movies, and may even shed a few tears, they will never fully understand everything that makes a woman a woman.

Are women really looking for Mr. Big?


Most women, at one time or another, have dreamed of finding that perfect person with whom they might spend the rest of their lives. They base their ideas of "perfect" on a number of influences, but those ideas are reshaped and remolded as they mature into adulthood. In essence, young girls swept away by fairy tales of Prince Charming, grow into women who would love to fall under the charms of "Mr. Big".

The concept of "Mr. Big" works wonderfully in a fictionalized dramatization. The man who has it all, and is willing to share it all with that one special woman is the stuff that dreams are made of. But in reality, there are not that many "Mr. Bigs" to go around, and most women find themselves involved with men who they hope is more than just average. At some point, they come to realize that what's really more important than searching aimlessly for the fairy tale of "Mr. Big", is to find the man who can realistically fill the role of "Mr. Right".

With that said, I must admit that there are times when I'm absolutely confused about the fascination with "Mr. Big". Though I'm not an avid follower of "Sex and the City", my assumption would be that the name "Big" refers to a man who completes the total package. Someone who is wealthy, very good looking, honest, generous, and fulfills the anatomical pipe dream that most women believe guarantees sexual fulfillment.
But the reference to "Big" goes even farther.

On "Sex and the City", "Big" just so happens to be big in every way. He's the guy who really does have it all. He's handsome, he's filthy rich, he's got a big house, big car, smokes big cigars, and to top it all off, I' assuming he has a big... well you know.

But, if this is the standard that the media projects to women, how can average guys in the real world even compete? When the media sets the standard so high and gives women the perception that they shouldn't settle for anything less in a man than they can dream about, what chance does the average guy have? What reasonably sane woman wouldn't want a "Mr. Big"?

Most guys invest a lot of time and energy into personal improvement. But with all of their efforts in striving to be the best man that they're capable of being, they may still fall short of the media hyped "Mr. Big". I sincerely wish the best for the "Sex and the City" franchise, but I also hope that women don't walk away with unrealistic expectations about what they should be looking for in a man.

There's nothing wrong with a woman wanting a rich, handsome hunk who just happens to be the complete package. It's just that average, hard working guys need love too.

Why Men Should Listen to Women



One of the biggest problems in couples communications is that men hear, but do not listen to women. And it's not that guys don't want to listen, it's just that in most cases, women are just not saying the things that guys want to hear. Even when it isn't an issue of being right or wrong, guys will depend too much on their own experiences or perceptions in efforts to preserve their male egos. Why should men listen to women? Because, quite frankly, guys don't always have all the answers.

It can be demeaning to a guy's sense of manly pride to admit that he is wrong, especially when he has to admit it to a woman. There are simply some things that a guy refuses to admit that a woman can be right about, or worse yet, know more about than he does. Politics, sports, world events, home and auto repair, action movies, video games, and map reading are just "guy things". When women infiltrate those territories, or heavens forbid, become knowledgeable about them, then it threatens the last few bastions of perceived male superiority. (Read entire article here)

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There used to be a time when love was enough to weather any storm in any relationship. To some extent, it may not have been just about love, but also about the honor of commitment. Couples fell in love and stayed together. That is what was expected, and that is how relationships thrived. But times have changed, and so have the ethics in relationships.

Today, "liberty" is not just about the rights and freedoms that allow us to live as we choose, but also about the right to opt out of relationships if for some reason, they are no longer emotionally or financially fulfilling to us. In the past, love was the glue that held two people together, even through dysfunction and imperfections. Read entire article...


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Blacks have been involved in the process of political leadership since before reconstruction. Vernon Jordon was a close confidant of President Clinton. Condolezza Rice and Colin Powell have both served as Secretary of State, and many other Blacks have held high political posts both in state and national government. Leadership abilities were not heaped on just one ethnic group or gender. We should not be so focused on the character that fills the seat of the white house, but rather, the character of the man. Read article... (click here)

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